And once again we are attracted to THAT guy
It’s a little cliche but here goes: We always want what we can’t have.
I’m constantly thinking to myself how I have no one. No guy that is. Yeah every now and then I find one to hang out with for a little, but no long term. I’m sure that will change I mean I have had boyfriends in the past…
Anyway. Back to work. I do have guys. Sometimes I’ll have three guys text me in one night. But, of course, why aren’t I interested in them.
For some reason girls always tell themselves that they want a guy who will text her, wanna see her, call her…all the time. But we don’t! Think about all the guys that text us that we either brush off or turn into a friendship. Whether we admit it or not we like the chase. Don’t get me wrong. We don’t ALWAYS want a chase, but if a guy can get us to mentally follow him (aka wonder what he’s doing when he should be texting us) then he wins. Sort of.
We only play this game for a little while. After we realize we are doing all the texting. We need to stop. Set a time limit and take a step back. Tell yourself you aren’t going to text him for a whole week. This means don’t check his twitter, like his status, connect to his linkedin. Nothing. Just play the cold, I-don’t-give-shit role. Eventually he texts you or you just really don’t give a shit.
It’s amazing how we love this little chase. I mean I’ll text a guy and he won’t answer, but then he texts me a week later and I’m like why are you texting me. Here’s an example: I met this guy and we were texting back and forth for a while. Taking turns starting the convo. Then he went MIA for over a month and out of nowhere BAM 1am text. At this point I can safely say he had his chance.
I feel that the “perfect” guy would be one that initiates at first. Asking to hang out and then backs away a little. Maybe for a week or so. But then he has to start it back up again otherwise us girls will lose interest and get turned off.
Girls. Play the game. Create the rules. Bend and twist until you’re happy and then if noting changes—move on! Fish in the sea! There’s a lot of them!